S.O.S. News

Fall 2015 Recovery Yoga!

We are pleased to offer "Recovery Yoga" for anyone who is engaged in a healing process.   Participants will not be asked to disclose information about their recovery, but examples include: sexual assault, eating disorders, drug and alcohol use, mental health struggles, veterans of war. Yoga sessions will be taught by trained instructors from Transformation Yoga. The first class will be outside on the Central Green on Sept. 17, 2015 at 7:00pm. Thereafter, classes will be held on Thursday nights at 7pm in 160 Carpenter Sports Building. Sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community, Sexual Offense Support, and Student Wellness & Health Promotion.

Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence

At some point, most people think about or question how healthy their romantic relationship is. Check out the chart below, which provides a good contrast between relationships that are healthy and relationships that might be abusive. If you find that your relationship has even just one or two characteristics listed in the right-hand column, it may help you to talk to someone about your relationship. You may be in an unhealthy, or even abusive relationship.

Healthy relationships function based on mutual respect, trust, equality, honesty, and open communication. Both partners in a healthy relationship maintain their own separate identities, and both partners share in decision making. When basic respect is missing, abuse is more likely to occur. Relationships are abusive when they involve use of intimidation, coersion, pressure, manipulation, one person controlling the other, put-downs or name-calling, or violence.

Click to listen to our DV Counselor Jenn Ewald's Sept 4th interview with WVUD.


In a healthy relationship, you... In an unhealthy relationship, you...
Communicate openly & honestly. Are afraid of the other's reaction or temper.
Feel physically & emotionally safe. Feel threatened or like you are "walking on eggshells" around the other person.
Take interest in and support each other's lives: goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc. Discourage the other person's goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc.
Permit and have privacy. One tries to control the other: what they wear, who they spend time with, what they do, etc.
Trust one another. Are overly jealous and possessive.
Feel valued and cared for. One makes the other person feel badly about him/herself.
Treat each other with respect. One puts the other person down, calls names.
Enjoy the time you spend together. Feel afraid of the other person.
Can resolve conflicts in a non-abusive manner. Make threats, throw objects, push, grab, hit, punch, push, slap, hold down, or otherwise harm the person..
Respect each other's need for space. Don't allow the other person to leave during an argument.
Have outside friends. Seeing other friends is discouraged.
Make decisions together. Only one makes decisions; makes the other feel as though they can't make sound decisions.
Participate in sexual activity by free choice. One pressures the other to participate in sexual activity, or forces them against their will.
Both partners feel good about themselves and each other. One partner feels manipulated by the other and feels badly about self.

Learn more from a Delaware website about developing Safe and Respectful relationships where you can take the "Check Yourself" Quiz, view innovative Public Service Announcements made by Delaware teens, and read about becoming a Courageous Bystander (just to list a few great features!) Then check out Virginia's Red Flag Campaign to help you identify behaviors of concern or to view warning signs in a graphic art style illustration, visit Friends of Rosalind.

To learn more, talk about your relationship, or seek help:


Child, INC. (Provides counseling, shelters, groups, parenting help, and information for teens and adults in Delaware regarding Intimate Partner Violence.)
Choose Respect
Dating Violence Resource Center
Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council
Love is Respect
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Teen Dating Violence Information)
Red Flag Campaign (A Virginia resource to help you recognize unhealthy behaviors.)
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All (A Delaware resource about healthy relationships!)

To seek crisis support and victim advocacy 24 hrs a day from an SOS Victim Advocate, call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and you will be called back within 10 minutes.

Upcoming Events!

Wed, Nov. 18th, 7:30pm
Sex Trafficking Survivor, Shamere McKenzie
Perkins West Lounge
Shamere McKenzie was a college student trying to find a way to pay for her education when she met the man who forced her into sex slavery. Hear the powerful story of how she was able to get away. Shamere became the Program Assistant for Shared Hope International, an organization whose mission is to prevent, rescue and restore women and children in crisis. And now she is the Chief Executive Officer for the Sun Gate Foundation, an anti-trafficking organization that provides educational opportunities for survivor of human trafficking. Sponsored by the UD RSO International Justice Mission.
Tues, Dec. 1st, 11:30am-1:30pm
World AIDS Day Table
Perkins Student Center
Visit Pow's table in Perkins Student Center for free hot cocoa! Pow will be collecting donations to fight AIDS.
Wed, Dec. 2nd, 7:00pm
Get Up, Stand Up: Be a Courageous Bystander!
Independence East Residence Hall Lounge
Have you ever heard a sexist or homophobic joke and wished you had confronted it? Witnessed someone name-calling or hitting another person? Seen a man leading a heavily intoxicated woman into a room at a party and closing the door? Were you left with the nagging feeling that someone should have intervened...yet getting involved felt too risky? A "Courageous Bystander" is someone who takes an active role in promoting a respectful environment, or who takes action to safely and responsibly interfere with abusive attitudes, statements, or behaviors. This interactive program helps participants learn ways to be a courageous bystander and possibly save someone from victimization and trauma. Presented by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.)
Sat, Dec. 5th, 12:00-3:30pm
World AIDS Day Summit
Delaware Technical Community College, 300 N. Orange Street, Wilmington
The World AIDS Day Summit is sponsored by DTCC, City of Wilmington, AIDS Delaware, Nemours, and Duffy's Hope. For more information, contact Frank Hawkins at 302-652-6776.
Dec. 9th & 10th, 11:30am-1:30pm
Color Me Calm
Carpenter Sports Building
Visit Pow's table each day in the Carpenter Sports Building for free mandala coloring pages to promote healthy stress management. Don't forget to come to our evening event on Friday(see below)!
Fri, Dec. 11th, 7:00pm-9:00pm
Color Me Calm
Alumni Lounge, Perkins Student Center
Pow! will provide tea, cookies, coloring books and light music to promote healthy stress management at this hectic time of the semester! Drop in for a soothing study break.