S.O.S. News

Spring 2015 Support Groups

Student Wellness & Health Promotion is offering a Sexual Assault Survivors' Support Group and a Healthy Relationships Support Group. They will not be open to the public. If interested, please call 831-3457 to schedule a 30-minute appointment. Group meetings will be 8-10 weeks, and will hopefully begin in the first week of March. Give yourself the gift of this experience!


Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence

At some point, most people think about or question how healthy their romantic relationship is. Check out the chart below, which provides a good contrast between relationships that are healthy and relationships that might be abusive. If you find that your relationship has even just one or two characteristics listed in the right-hand column, it may help you to talk to someone about your relationship. You may be in an unhealthy, or even abusive relationship.

Healthy relationships function based on mutual respect, trust, equality, honesty, and open communication. Both partners in a healthy relationship maintain their own separate identities, and both partners share in decision making. When basic respect is missing, abuse is more likely to occur. Relationships are abusive when they involve use of intimidation, coersion, pressure, manipulation, one person controlling the other, put-downs or name-calling, or violence.

Click to listen to our DV Counselor Jenn Ewald's Sept 4th interview with WVUD.

 

In a healthy relationship, you... In an unhealthy relationship, you...
Communicate openly & honestly. Are afraid of the other's reaction or temper.
Feel physically & emotionally safe. Feel threatened or like you are "walking on eggshells" around the other person.
Take interest in and support each other's lives: goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc. Discourage the other person's goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc.
Permit and have privacy. One tries to control the other: what they wear, who they spend time with, what they do, etc.
Trust one another. Are overly jealous and possessive.
Feel valued and cared for. One makes the other person feel badly about him/herself.
Treat each other with respect. One puts the other person down, calls names.
Enjoy the time you spend together. Feel afraid of the other person.
Can resolve conflicts in a non-abusive manner. Make threats, throw objects, push, grab, hit, punch, push, slap, hold down, or otherwise harm the person..
Respect each other's need for space. Don't allow the other person to leave during an argument.
Have outside friends. Seeing other friends is discouraged.
Make decisions together. Only one makes decisions; makes the other feel as though they can't make sound decisions.
Participate in sexual activity by free choice. One pressures the other to participate in sexual activity, or forces them against their will.
Both partners feel good about themselves and each other. One partner feels manipulated by the other and feels badly about self.

Learn more from a Delaware website about developing Safe and Respectful relationships where you can take the "Check Yourself" Quiz, view innovative Public Service Announcements made by Delaware teens, and read about becoming a Courageous Bystander (just to list a few great features!) Then check out Virginia's Red Flag Campaign to help you identify behaviors of concern or to view warning signs in a graphic art style illustration, visit Friends of Rosalind.


To learn more, talk about your relationship, or seek help:

Resources:

Child, INC. (Provides counseling, shelters, groups, parenting help, and information for teens and adults in Delaware regarding Intimate Partner Violence.)
Choose Respect
Dating Violence Resource Center
Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council
Love is Respect
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Teen Dating Violence Information)
Red Flag Campaign (A Virginia resource to help you recognize unhealthy behaviors.)
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All (A Delaware resource about healthy relationships!)

To seek crisis support and victim advocacy 24 hrs a day from an SOS Victim Advocate, call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and you will be called back within 10 minutes.

Upcoming Events!

Thurs, February 26th, 7:00pm
Image...Imagine a Healthy One
National Eating Disorders Awareness Events
102 Gore Hall
Presented by Pow! Promoters of Wellness. Sponsored by Active Minds.
Mon, March 2nd, 2:00pm
"The Health Ideal: Embrace Every Body" Workshop
National Eating Disorders Awareness Events
102 Gore Hall
See the flyer for details. Contact sharlee@udel.edu or sschong@udel.edu if interested. Sponsored by the Center for Counseling & Student Development.
Mon, March 2nd, 7:00pm
Highway of Tears
204 Kirkbride
Highway of Tears looks into the missing and murdered women along a 724 kilometer stretch of highway in northern British Columbia. Sponsored by the Women and Gender Studies Department for the Women's History Film Series.
Mon, March 2nd
Tickets available for The Hunting Ground EXCLUSIVE SNEAK PREVIEW on March 11th
UD Box Offices
See details of March 11th event below.
Wed, March 4th, 7:00pm
"Come As You Are" - with Sexuality Author, Emily Nagoski
204 Kirkbride
Emily will speak about her first book Come As You Are, which is an essential exploration of why and how female sexuality works-based on groundbreaking research and brain science-that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. Emily is a former UD Pow! Peer Educator with a PhD in Health Behavior from Indiana University. At IU, Emily worked as an educator and docent at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex Gender and Reproduction. Currently, Emily is the Director of the Wellness Office at Smith College in Massachusetts. Books will be on sale and Emily will be available for signing at the end of the event.
Mon, March 9th, 7:00pm
Tales of the Waria
204 Kirkbride
Tales of the Waria is an Academy-award winning film which shares stories of love and longing from transgender women in Indonesia Sponsored by the Women and Gender Studies Department for the Women's History Film Series.
Wed, March 11th, 8:00pm
EXCLUSIVE SNEAK PREVIEW of The Hunting Ground, followed by discussion with Producer Amy Ziering
Mitchell Hall
From the Sundance Film Festival site, where the film premiered in January: "The statistics are staggering. One in five women in college are sexually assaulted, yet only a fraction of these crimes are reported, and even fewer result in punishment for the perpetrators. From the intrepid team behind The Invisible War, comes The Hunting Ground, a piercing, monumental exposé of rape culture on campuses, poised to light a fire under a national debate." Stay after the film for a frank discussion with Producer Amy Ziering. Watch the trailer. Tickets are free, but required and will be available through UD Box Offices starting March 2nd. Sponsored by the Philosophy Department and the SAPE Committee.
Mon, March 16th, 7:00pm
Service
204 Kirkbride
Service portrays the courage of several women veterans as they transition from active duty to their civilian lives. We see the horrific traumas they faced, their invisible as well as physical injuries and all their challenges in receiving benefits and care. We follow them through the large and small accomplishments they work mightily to achieve. Part of the Women's History Month Film Series, sponsored by the Women and Gender Studies Department.
Mon, March 23rd, 7:00pm
Saving Face
204 Kirkbride
Recently honored with an Academy Award for Best Documentary Short, Saving Face follows several survivors of acid attacks in their fight for justice, and reveals the work of a Pakistani plastic surgeon who has returned to his homeland to help them restore their faces. Part of the Women's History Month Film Series, sponsored by the Women and Gender Studies Department.