S.O.S. News

Fall 2015 Recovery Yoga!

We are pleased to offer "Recovery Yoga" for anyone who is engaged in a healing process.   Participants will not be asked to disclose information about their recovery, but examples include: sexual assault, eating disorders, drug and alcohol use, mental health struggles, veterans of war. Yoga sessions will be taught by trained instructors from Transformation Yoga. The first class will be outside on the Central Green on Sept. 17, 2015 at 7:00pm. Thereafter, classes will be held on Thursday nights at 7pm in 160 Carpenter Sports Building. Sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community, Sexual Offense Support, and Student Wellness & Health Promotion.


Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence

At some point, most people think about or question how healthy their romantic relationship is. Check out the chart below, which provides a good contrast between relationships that are healthy and relationships that might be abusive. If you find that your relationship has even just one or two characteristics listed in the right-hand column, it may help you to talk to someone about your relationship. You may be in an unhealthy, or even abusive relationship.

Healthy relationships function based on mutual respect, trust, equality, honesty, and open communication. Both partners in a healthy relationship maintain their own separate identities, and both partners share in decision making. When basic respect is missing, abuse is more likely to occur. Relationships are abusive when they involve use of intimidation, coersion, pressure, manipulation, one person controlling the other, put-downs or name-calling, or violence.

Click to listen to our DV Counselor Jenn Ewald's Sept 4th interview with WVUD.

 

In a healthy relationship, you... In an unhealthy relationship, you...
Communicate openly & honestly. Are afraid of the other's reaction or temper.
Feel physically & emotionally safe. Feel threatened or like you are "walking on eggshells" around the other person.
Take interest in and support each other's lives: goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc. Discourage the other person's goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc.
Permit and have privacy. One tries to control the other: what they wear, who they spend time with, what they do, etc.
Trust one another. Are overly jealous and possessive.
Feel valued and cared for. One makes the other person feel badly about him/herself.
Treat each other with respect. One puts the other person down, calls names.
Enjoy the time you spend together. Feel afraid of the other person.
Can resolve conflicts in a non-abusive manner. Make threats, throw objects, push, grab, hit, punch, push, slap, hold down, or otherwise harm the person..
Respect each other's need for space. Don't allow the other person to leave during an argument.
Have outside friends. Seeing other friends is discouraged.
Make decisions together. Only one makes decisions; makes the other feel as though they can't make sound decisions.
Participate in sexual activity by free choice. One pressures the other to participate in sexual activity, or forces them against their will.
Both partners feel good about themselves and each other. One partner feels manipulated by the other and feels badly about self.

Learn more from a Delaware website about developing Safe and Respectful relationships where you can take the "Check Yourself" Quiz, view innovative Public Service Announcements made by Delaware teens, and read about becoming a Courageous Bystander (just to list a few great features!) Then check out Virginia's Red Flag Campaign to help you identify behaviors of concern or to view warning signs in a graphic art style illustration, visit Friends of Rosalind.


To learn more, talk about your relationship, or seek help:

Resources:

Child, INC. (Provides counseling, shelters, groups, parenting help, and information for teens and adults in Delaware regarding Intimate Partner Violence.)
Choose Respect
Dating Violence Resource Center
Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council
Love is Respect
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Teen Dating Violence Information)
Red Flag Campaign (A Virginia resource to help you recognize unhealthy behaviors.)
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All (A Delaware resource about healthy relationships!)

To seek crisis support and victim advocacy 24 hrs a day from an SOS Victim Advocate, call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and you will be called back within 10 minutes.

Upcoming Events!

Mon, Aug. 31st
International Overdose Awareness Day
Location TBA
International Overdose Awareness Day (IOAD) is a global event held on August 31st each year and aims to raise awareness of overdose and reduce the stigma of a drug-related death. It also acknowledges the grief felt by families and friends remembering those who have met with death or permanent injury as a result of drug overdose.
Thurs, Sept. 17th, 7:00pm
Recovery Yoga
On the Central Green by Memorial Hall & Hullihen Hall
We are pleased to offer "Recovery Yoga" for anyone engaged in a healing process. Participants will not be asked to disclose information about their recovery, but examples include: sexual assault, eating disorders, drug and alcohol use, mental health struggles, veterans of war. Classes will be taught by trained instructors from Transformation Yoga. After this kick-off session, classes will be held on Thursday nights at 7pm in 160 Carpenter Sports Building. Sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community, Sexual Offense Support, and Student Wellness & Health Promotion.
Sun, Oct. 4th
Bus trip to Rally in DC
Bus will take the group from Newark to Washington, DC
The time has come to UNITE to Face Addiction and stand up for recovery. On October 4, 2015 a transformative event will take place in Washington, DC that will ignite and build a movement to address one of the most pressing health issues of our time. Please join the University of Delaware's Collegiate Recovery Community for a bus trip to this rally. Contact Jess at Jestok@udel.edu for more information.
Sat, Oct. 10th
2nd Annual S.O.S. 5K: Glow for Hope Walk/Run
UD Laird Campus
Whether you are an avid racer, are looking for opportunities to exercise, or are passionate about ending sexual assault, intimate partner violence & stalking on campus, we hope you will join S.O.S. for our 2nd Annual 5K event! Registration is $15 for UD students, $20 Non-Student pre-registration rate until 10/5, $50 Family Rate, $25 Day-of-Event registration. T-shirts, & refreshments for all participants. Proceeds wil benefit S.O.S. Questions? Call Student Wellness 831-3457.