S.O.S. News

Spring 2015 Support Groups

Student Wellness & Health Promotion is offering a Sexual Assault Survivors' Support Group and a Healthy Relationships Support Group. They will not be open to the public. If interested, please call 831-3457 to schedule a 30-minute appointment. Group meetings will be 8-10 weeks, and will hopefully begin in the first week of March. Give yourself the gift of this experience!


Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence

At some point, most people think about or question how healthy their romantic relationship is. Check out the chart below, which provides a good contrast between relationships that are healthy and relationships that might be abusive. If you find that your relationship has even just one or two characteristics listed in the right-hand column, it may help you to talk to someone about your relationship. You may be in an unhealthy, or even abusive relationship.

Healthy relationships function based on mutual respect, trust, equality, honesty, and open communication. Both partners in a healthy relationship maintain their own separate identities, and both partners share in decision making. When basic respect is missing, abuse is more likely to occur. Relationships are abusive when they involve use of intimidation, coersion, pressure, manipulation, one person controlling the other, put-downs or name-calling, or violence.

Click to listen to our DV Counselor Jenn Ewald's Sept 4th interview with WVUD.

 

In a healthy relationship, you... In an unhealthy relationship, you...
Communicate openly & honestly. Are afraid of the other's reaction or temper.
Feel physically & emotionally safe. Feel threatened or like you are "walking on eggshells" around the other person.
Take interest in and support each other's lives: goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc. Discourage the other person's goals, ideas, interests, friends, etc.
Permit and have privacy. One tries to control the other: what they wear, who they spend time with, what they do, etc.
Trust one another. Are overly jealous and possessive.
Feel valued and cared for. One makes the other person feel badly about him/herself.
Treat each other with respect. One puts the other person down, calls names.
Enjoy the time you spend together. Feel afraid of the other person.
Can resolve conflicts in a non-abusive manner. Make threats, throw objects, push, grab, hit, punch, push, slap, hold down, or otherwise harm the person..
Respect each other's need for space. Don't allow the other person to leave during an argument.
Have outside friends. Seeing other friends is discouraged.
Make decisions together. Only one makes decisions; makes the other feel as though they can't make sound decisions.
Participate in sexual activity by free choice. One pressures the other to participate in sexual activity, or forces them against their will.
Both partners feel good about themselves and each other. One partner feels manipulated by the other and feels badly about self.

Learn more from a Delaware website about developing Safe and Respectful relationships where you can take the "Check Yourself" Quiz, view innovative Public Service Announcements made by Delaware teens, and read about becoming a Courageous Bystander (just to list a few great features!) Then check out Virginia's Red Flag Campaign to help you identify behaviors of concern or to view warning signs in a graphic art style illustration, visit Friends of Rosalind.


To learn more, talk about your relationship, or seek help:

Resources:

Child, INC. (Provides counseling, shelters, groups, parenting help, and information for teens and adults in Delaware regarding Intimate Partner Violence.)
Choose Respect
Dating Violence Resource Center
Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence Coordinating Council
Love is Respect
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
National Domestic Violence Hotline (Teen Dating Violence Information)
Red Flag Campaign (A Virginia resource to help you recognize unhealthy behaviors.)
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All (A Delaware resource about healthy relationships!)

To seek crisis support and victim advocacy 24 hrs a day from an SOS Victim Advocate, call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and you will be called back within 10 minutes.

Upcoming Events!

May 4, 5 & 6th, 4:00-8:00pm
Fundraiser for the Collegiate Recovery Community
Launch Trampoline Park
Come out and bounce to support UD's CRC! 25% of all proceeds raised from jump time will be donated by Launch to the CRC! All you have to do in mention the flyer or let them know you are there for the fundraiser for UD. Visit their website at LaunchDE.com
May 6th, 7:00pm
Get Up, Stand Up: Be a Courageous Bystander
100 Kirkbride
Have you ever heard a sexist or homophobic joke and wished you had confronted it? Witnessed someone name-calling or hitting another person? Seen a man leading a heavily intoxicated woman into a room at a party and closing the door? Were you left with the nagging feeling that someone should have intervened...yet getting involved felt too risky? A "Courageous Bystander" is someone who takes an active role in promoting a respectful environment, or who takes action to safely and responsibly interfere with abusive attitudes, statements, or behaviors. This interactive program helps participants learn ways to be a courageous bystander and possibly save someone from victimization and trauma. Presented by UD's Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.).
May 20th, Registration at 5:30pm, Race at 6:30pm
Run for Recovery 5K Run/Walk
Rockford Park, Wilmington, DE
The Collegiate Recovery Community at UD will have at table in support of the Limen House 5k. For more information about the Limen House program or to sign up for the 5k, go to their website at www.limenhouse.org