The Red Zone is NOW...
The period of time between the start of school and Thanksgiving break is the "Red Zone," when college students - especially freshmen - have the most vulnerability & highest risk of being sexually assaulted. Sexual assault is NEVER the victim's fault. All Blue Hens help to make our campus safer when you #recognize dangerous situations, #support your friends & any potential victims, and #intervene in a safe way or seek help. Share your bystander intervention experiences on twitter & instagram and tag Student Wellness @UD_UseYourPower. Ask for consent every time in every sexual encounter, and respect your partner's boundaries if they say no. Tell us how you ask using #iaskforconsent!
S.O.S. - Sexual Offense Support
Sexual Offense Support is a volunteer organization providing support to survivors of all forms of sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and stalking, as well as educating the University of Delaware community on these topics.
S.O.S. is made up of undergraduate and graduate student volunteers, with some staff and community volunteers. S.O.S. is a program of Student Wellness & Health Promotion on campus. Please explore our website to learn more about our services, assistance for victims, how you can volunteer, and other helpful information. Or call Student Wellness & Health Promotion at 302-831-3457.
How do you Ask for Consent?
A heavily intoxicated person cannot give consent. Having sex with someone who is "out of it" is rape. Protect yourself and your partner. Be sure you clearly ask for consent and only proceed if your partner says "yes" and seems into it!
Ways to Ask for Consent:
Can I kiss you?
May I hold your hand?
How far are you comfortable going?
Do you want to have sex?
Have you ever done...?
Would you like to try it with me?
Do you want to go further?
Verbal Signals that indicate "slow down" and possibly "no":
I'm not sure if I'm ready.
I don't know if I want to.
I think I've had too much to drink.
Whoa, this is moving too fast.
I don't feel right.
Ways to check things out if your partner seems hesitant:
What would you like to do right now?
Is this ok?
Are you ok?
Do you want to stop?
You seem quiet. Are you sure?
Is there anything you don't want to do?
- Are you comfortable right now?
Non-verbal expressions of "no":
- Lack of eye contact
- Discomfort, being "antsy", turning away from you
- Crossing arms or holding arms tight to the body
- Freezing, not responding to you physically
- Pushing you away
- Trying to curl into a ball
- Stiffening muscles
To reach the SOS Victim Advocate on duty 24 hours/day call 302-831-2226. The Student Health Service staff member who answers will take a first name and phone number and the S.O.S. Victim Advocate will call you back within 10 minutes.
You may also wish to learn more from your own computer. You are encouraged to explore this site, and also visit www.udel.edu/sexualassault to learn more about UD's Policy, victim options, and answers to frequently asked questions.
Speaker & Sexual Assault Survivor Debra Puglisi Sharp
123 Memorial Hall
Debbie is a Delaware resident whose story was in the news on a daily basis as it unfolded in April, 1998. Come hear her powerful story including the recording of her 911 call to police that freed her from captivity. Learn more: www.puglisisharp.com. Sponsored by S.O.S. and UD's Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee.
Where Do You Stand? - Human Continuum Exercise
123 Memorial Hall
This program, facilitated by members of S.O.S. will help you clarify where you stand regarding a variety of sexual situations and whether they rise to the level of sexual harassment, sexual assault, or sexual abuse. Sponsored by S.O.S. and UD's Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee.
Project led by the newly forming Men's Action Network
Stop by Perkins Kiosk on Friday for a chance to win a UD Bookstore gift card! Just spend a few moments sharing your thoughts for a project on masculinity, gender norms, and engaging men in gender-based violence prevention.