At UD, sexual assault prevention programs are now offered year-round, but nationally, April is recognized as Sexual Assault Awareness Month. Check out all the UD SAPE events in April, from the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes March, to S.O.S.' new "Changing the Conversation: Story of a Night" program, to SAGE's annual Take Back the Night March & Speak-Out! Come for CAP points, to learn how to help a friend, to advocate for change, to get a free t-shirt, or to Speak Out! And every day, help make UD safer by recognizing dangerous situations, supporting each other, and intervening in a safe way.
S.O.S. - Sexual Offense Support
Sexual Offense Support is a volunteer organization providing support to survivors of all forms of sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and stalking, as well as educating the University of Delaware community on these topics.
S.O.S. is made up of undergraduate and graduate student volunteers, with some staff and community volunteers. S.O.S. is a program of Student Wellness & Health Promotion on campus. Please explore our website to learn more about our services, assistance for victims, how you can volunteer, and other helpful information. Or call Student Wellness & Health Promotion at 302-831-3457.
How do you Ask for Consent?
A heavily intoxicated person cannot give consent. Having sex with someone who is "out of it" is rape. Protect yourself and your partner. Be sure you clearly ask for consent and only proceed if your partner says "yes" and seems into it!
Ways to Ask for Consent:
Can I kiss you?
May I hold your hand?
How far are you comfortable going?
Do you want to have sex?
Have you ever done...?
Would you like to try it with me?
Do you want to go further?
Verbal Signals that indicate "slow down" and possibly "no":
I'm not sure if I'm ready.
I don't know if I want to.
I think I've had too much to drink.
Whoa, this is moving too fast.
I don't feel right.
Ways to check things out if your partner seems hesitant:
What would you like to do right now?
Is this ok?
Are you ok?
Do you want to stop?
You seem quiet. Are you sure?
Is there anything you don't want to do?
- Are you comfortable right now?
Non-verbal expressions of "no":
- Lack of eye contact
- Discomfort, being "antsy", turning away from you
- Crossing arms or holding arms tight to the body
- Freezing, not responding to you physically
- Pushing you away
- Trying to curl into a ball
- Stiffening muscles
To reach the SOS Victim Advocate on duty 24 hours/day call 302-831-2226. The Student Health Service staff member who answers will take a first name and phone number and the S.O.S. Victim Advocate will call you back within 10 minutes.
You may also wish to learn more from your own computer. You are encouraged to explore this site, and also visit www.udel.edu/sexualassault to learn more about UD's Policy, victim options, and answers to frequently asked questions.
Delaware's Annual Crime Victims' Tribute & Candlelight Vigil
Delaware State University, Multi-Purpose Rooms, MLK Student Center, Dover
Speaker: UD Alumni and Survivor, Kristen Baumer, was abducted as a freshman at UD. She will speak about her experience. She is part of the RAPE Outreach Team and has shared her story on The Biography Network's "I Survived" and the I.D. Network's "House of Horrors: Kidnapped." Kristen hopes that she can make a difference in others' lives by sharing her story. Those affected by crime are invited to bring writings, artwork or other meaningful items to be posted on the Memorial Walls which will be on display at the event. See the flyer. Sponsored by Delaware Victims' Rights Task Force. Calll 1-800-Victim1 if you need accommodations or information. See the flyer. Free and open to the public.
Art Party with Opt4
Central Green in front of Gore
Come out for Tie-dyeing, decorating Opt4 shirts, finger paint, puffy paint, glitter glue, bubbles, and mocktails. Sponsored by Opt4.
QUIZZO: Fundraiser for Natasha's Justice Project
Trabant Multi-Purpose Rooms
SAGE is hosting Quizzo to raise money for Natasha’s Justice Project. The organization was created by Natasha Alexenko, a sexual assault survivor, who has made it her life’s work to advocate for the elimination of the rape kit backlog in the United States. Natasha’s story is featured in the HBO Documentary Sex Crimes Unit, which was shown as part of the Women & Gender Studies Department's Film Series in March. Sponsored by Students Acting for Gender Equity (SAGE).
Changing the Conversation: The Story of a Night
It's time to change the conversation around sexual assault. In this program, you will hear Jane's story and be part of transforming societal responses. Learn how you, and all of us, can make a difference in Jane's life and in the lives of other survivors. Start changing the conversation right now! Presented by S.O.S. and sponsored by UD's Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee.
Walk a Mile in Her Shoes
Speaker & Shoes at Trabant Theater
Be on the lookout for your favorite fraternity brothers, male professors and staff as they don four-inch bright red stiletto heels to march around the north green. This will be a fun opportunity for men to educate and inspire the campus community to take action in the prevention of sexual violence, and learn about resources for victims on campus like Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.). A limited number of men-sized high heel shoes will be provided, so come early to reserve your pair of shoes for this popular march (or feel free to bring your own high heels!). As the saying goes, you cannot truly understand another person's experiences until you have "walked a mile in their shoes." For more information about the national campaign, visit www.walkamileinhershoes.org. Sponsored by Inter-Fraternity Council as part of UD's Sexual Assault Awareness Month.
Where Do You Stand? - Human Continuum Exercise
This program will help you clarify where you stand regarding a variety of sexual situations and whether they rise to the level of sexual harassment, sexual assault, or sexual abuse. Presented by S.O.S. for Sexual Assault Awareness Month and sponsored by UD's Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee.
Powerful Partnerships Conference: 20 Years of the Violence Against Women Act and the Path Ahead
The Department of Women and Gender Studies at the University of Delaware and the Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence are co-hosting this conference which will highlight the power of partnerships in working to end gender violence. The conference will create a unique space for survivors, community activists, advocates, researchers, business leaders, and government officials from across the nation to come together to share findings, best practices, and lessons learned and to foster trust, resilient relationships, and innovate strategies for addressing gender-based violence as we look forward to the future. A variety of workshops, roundtables, panel presentations, and poster sessions integrating research and practice will be offered. Learn more & register today!
Take Back the Night March & Speak-Out
120 Smith Hall (for the speaker, where the march begins, and for Speak-Out after the march)
Guest Speaker Andrea Gibson will kick off this year's Take Back the Night March! Women all over the world have been shattering the silence around sexual assault and violence against women at Take Back the Night Marches for over 30 years. Join your fellow students at the University of Delaware as we "take back the night" and speak out against campus rape and violence. All are welcome to participate! Sponsored by Students Acting for Gender Equality (SAGE). Check back for details. Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee.