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Balancing work and family
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Nicole T. Johnson, a classroom assistant at UDs Early Learning Center, takes a playground break with her twins, Candice and Cameren, after a busy day at work. |
2:56 p.m., May 3, 2005--If youre a working mom who cant enjoy Mothers Day because you know dirty dishes and work projects are piling up while youre resting on your laurels, you need help.
Fortunately, UDs Cooperative Extension Service provides an online newsletter chock full of tips on balancing work and family.
Here are some helpful tips based on the advice from Families Matter newsletters:
- Establish rituals for your family. If your ritual is everybody heads upstairs for a bedtime story at 8 p.m., youll hear less crabbing because itll quickly become automatic. Family rituals--like Friday night board games or a walk after church on Sunday--help us relate to one another. New rituals can be started to adapt to a change in the family structure--like a blended family or the loss of a loved one. Let everyone plan a part of the ritual so the onus doesn’t fall on Mom. Very small people can do very small parts, and their parts can grow as they do.
- Children thrive on routines. Make homework easier by scheduling it at a certain time each night of the week. Collect all needed material before starting. Turn off the noise. Check with your childs teachers to see how much time to schedule for each subject. Post homework rules so everyone knows the rules before they sit down to work. Praise your child for her efforts. When your child masters the homework routine, reward him with an experience that will help him grow. That might be a trip to a museum, a Saturday afternoon at the library or a sleepover with school friends.
- If your child does homework at his after-school program, be sure to make time to review it with him and talk about his interests and concerns. The time you spend now is an investment in his future.
- Its hard to cook a big meal after a long day at work. Besides, youd rather spend the time with the kids. But avoid falling into the fast-food trap by having healthy foods on hand. Healthy doesnt mean expensive or hard-to-prepare. While getting ready for work and school, its easy to prepare a breakfast of peanut butter on toast or cheese melted on a roll.
- Planning ahead can save frayed nerves in the morning. Nighttime showers or baths make a.m. bathroom scheduling easier. Lay out clothes the night before so everyone can get dressed more quickly in the morning.
- If youre just too tired to do the usual routine, trim the time you spend, maybe reading a few pages instead of an entire book or making up a to be continued story. Explain to your child that, just like batteries, moms need to recharge every once in a while.
- Get your young child to regulate himself and youll save countless hours and aggravation when hes a teen-ager. When hes still young, give him his own alarm clock. Set the clock for him and, when he gets older, show him how to do it himself.
- Make a launching pad near the door where family members place books, backpacks and other items theyll carry to work or school.
- Be sure to set aside some time for each child each week. It can be as little as 15 minutes, but it should not be interrupted by your other children or other activities. Do whatever your child enjoys. That 3.5 hours a week will pay dividends for decades.
- Take advantage of lost timetell stories when youre waiting at the doctors office, keep a box of books in the car for unexpected delays.
- When tempers flare, remember to use I messages and not you messagesI dont like all this fighting instead of Whats wrong with the two of you?
- Good and happy times are the family glue that hold you together when times turn bad. It doesnt require a lot of time or money to have family fun. Try sharing a short book every evening. Have dinner by candlelight once a weekit doesnt have to be fancy but get everyone involved in planning and preparing the meal. Have a Scrabble night with special rules for new spellers. Teach your children a card game and let them teach you one. Plant a small garden together, or just grow some spices in a pot. Invite neighbors over for after-dinner lemonade and popcorn. Encourage family members to make each others holiday gifts instead of purchasing them. Build a snow fort or act out a fairy tale together. Visit a local historical site. Check the local newspaper for free events to attend.
Family Matters is available online at [http://ag.udel.edu/extension/fam/fm/].
Article by Kathy Canavan
Photo by Kathy F. Atkinson
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