S.O.S. News
WE NEED YOU!
S.O.S. is accepting applications thru October 28th and will train new volunteers over two weekends in January. Questions? Get the answers from current volunteers at our Interest Meeting on Tues 10/18 at 6pm in the Williamson Room, Perkins Student Center, or find out more on this website! If you want experience with crisis intervention & victim advocacy, skills in facilitating peer prevention programs, a unique community service opportunity, or you have career goals related to the work of S.O.S., then we are the right UD activity for you! Apply online!
Welcome Parents!
Whether you are sending your son or daughter off to college for the first time, or you are an experienced parent of a college student, we congratulate & welcome you!
Studies done with high school students by the National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy tell us that most adults believe that teens' peers have the highest influence on teen decision making about sex. However, teens themselves report that parents most influence their decisions about sex. You play a vital role in shaping the beliefs, attitudes and behaviors of your sons or daughters. You may also be instrumental in helping them to understand how beneficial it is to their long-term physical and emotional healing if they turn to helping resources after victimization, and where to turn for help if they need it. Parents can be powerful catalysts for healing if they respond appropriately with support, non-judgment, and acceptance after a sexual assault. While it can be an anxiety-provoking experience to try to talk with your son or daughter about sex, alcohol, sexual assault, healthy decision-making, and healthy relationships, these are critical and meaningful conversations to have. Additional scholarly research (listed below) indicates that proactive conversations between parents and their teen/adult children, and parents communicating their expectations, are likely to have a powerful impact on students' choices and experiences. We encourage parents to discuss these topics early and often, even with your college-aged, young adult children.
- DiIorino, C., Kelley, M., and Hockenberry-Eaton, M. (1999). Communication about sexual issues: Mothers, fathers, and friends, Journal of Adolescent Health; 24:181–189.
- Miller, B. (1998). Families matter: A research synthesis of family influences on adolescent pregnancy. Washington, DC: National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.
- Nash, S.G., McQueen, A., Bray, J.H.(2005). Pathways to adolescent alcohol use: family environment, peer influence, and parental expectations Journal of Adolescent Health, 37, 1, 19–28, United States
- Council of Economic Advisors (2000). Teens and their parents in the 21st century: An examination of trends in teen behavior and the role of parental involvement. Washington, DC: Council of Economic Advisors.
You can do it!
You may find it helpful to talk with other parents of college students for their insights and suggestions about addressing these difficult issues with your child. You may also find it helpful to establish a network of parents of college students to have a peer group in which to exchange ideas and offer support. Also remember, Wellspring is here to assist parents too. If you would like assistance in preparing yourself to have a conversation with your son or daughter, call us at 831-3457 during business hours and ask to speak to a professional staff member. If we are with students or attending meetings, one of us will return your call as soon as we are able.
Resources for Parents
Below are links to some excellent resources to assist parents in preparing to have these critical conversations. Check them out as you prepare yourself to check in with your son or daughter.
Talk to Your Kids...Before Everyone Else Does -- helpful booklet for parents from the National Sexual Violence Resource Center. Includes 10 tips for talking with your kids about tough issues.
Parents Talking to Kids About Consent & Sexual Assault -- The Safe Date Project
Safe and Respectful Relationships for All -- a Delaware resource with a section for parents
How Can I Protect My Child From Sexual Abuse? -- RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network). This document is focussed on younger children but offers valid helpful suggestions.
Protecting Children From Sexual Assault -- Also for parents of younger children, but a very informative & helpful resource.
What Parents Need to Know About College Drinking -- good information & excellent suggestions from the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism
Fall Semester -- A Time for Parents to Revisit Discussions About College Drinking -- another great resource from NIAAA
Recovery from Sexual Assault -- RAINN offers many resources about helping a survivor after a sexual assault, support and recovery for friends & family members of the victim, and other resources.
Sexual Assault on Campus
National studies inform us that 1 in 4 college women will experience sexual assault. While recent studies on our own campus tell us that the percentage is lower at UD (1 in 14), we are engaged in preventative efforts to reduce sexual assault on our campus, and we are initiating new strategies to make students aware of their options and resources after a sexual assault has occurred.
Education & Prevention
UD students will be exposed to messages about their sexual safety in a variety of different environments on campus. Freshmen will learn about the high correlation between drinking and sexual assault, and related safety information, as part of their Alcohol.Edu online course. Freshmen enrolled in a Freshmen Year Seminar (FYS) or a Student Athletes' seminar will learn about sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and sexual safety as a mandatory part of their Freshmen Year Experience (FYE Program). All students will have the opportunity to attend educational programs in the residence halls, at Fall DelaWorld, as part of their fraternity or sorority risk management classes, and/or at campus-wide events. Female students may choose to sign up for a free RAD class (Rape Aggression Defense) offered by Public Safety.
These experiences ideally will, in a fun and interactive way, raise students' awareness about healthy and respectful communication regarding sex and relationships, help them to cultivate their own good decision making and assertiveness skills, and educate them about potential safety risks and the resources available to them on campus.
Resources if Your Son or Daughter is Victimized
In the unfortunate circumstance that your son or daughter experiences sexual assault, relationship violence or stalking, the University provides a wide array of offices and services to assist them.
S.O.S.: 831-2226 for 24/7 crisis care or 831-3457 for non-emergency appointments. (Please explore the rest of this website for more information.) S.O.S. services include 24 hour victim advocacy, crisis care and support for victims of all forms of sexual assault, intimate partner violence, and stalking. The 24 hour crisis service is available to parents, friends, roommates, significant others, family members, colleagues, and UD staff working with the survivor. To contact an SOS volunteer at any time day or night, call the Health Service at 831-2226 and tell them you wish to speak to someone from S.O.S. The staff member will take your first name and a phone number and have the victim advocate on duty call you back within 10 minutes. S.O.S. also provides follow-up crisis counseling with a professional staff member at Wellspring, referral to other resources on and off campus, corresponding with professors regarding excusal from class or postponement of exams, and assistance obtaining other resources. S.O.S. offers a support group for survivors of sexual violence. The 24 hour number is also available to parents, roommates, friends, loved ones, and partners of victims. Read more about supporting a victim after an assault.
University of Delaware Police Department: 831-2222. Trained detectives investigate on campus sexual assaults for both the criminal justice system in Delaware and on-campus Office of Student Conduct proceedings. The Department of Public Safety can also provide victims with a ride to the Christiana Hospital for medical attention and forensic evidence collection via the Forensic Nursing Unit at the Emergency Room.
ChristianaCare Forensic Nursing Unit (Formerly known as Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners or SANE) - Located in the Emergency Room of Christiana Hospital, the forensic nursing unit provides victims with comprehensive medical care, emergency contraception, STD testing and prophylaxis, and evidence collection examinations for use in conjunction with a criminal investigation and court proceedings. Christiana Hospital is the only medical facility in New Castle County providing forensic evidence collection.
Student Health Service: 831-2226. Provides students medical care, arranges contact with the S.O.S. victim advocates, and offers gynecological care through the Women's Clinic.
Center for Counseling and Student Development: 831-2141. Provides students with counseling, psychotherapy, and crisis intervention for psychological issues.
Office of the Dean of Students: 831-3266. Direct student assistance for crisis or administrative issues. The Dean of Students may serve as a liaison for students with academic departments and other offices on campus.
Office of Equity and Inclusion (formerly the Office of Women's Affairs): 831-8063. Provides information and support to students regarding sexual harassment.
Office of Student Conduct: 831-2117. Violations of University Code of Conduct, including violations of the sexual assault and sexual harassment policies, are addressed by the Office of Student Conduct.
Residence Life: 831-1201. Students may contact their Hall Director in the residence hall for immediate assistance, for assistance contacting S.O.S., to report a sexual assault (which will be referred to the Office of Student Conduct), or for other referral information.
Newark Police: 911 for emergencies or 366-7111. Newark Police investigate crimes that occur off-campus in the City of Newark.
Wellspring: 831-3457. Wellspring houses S.O.S. and offers students education and one-on-one support to discuss their drinking or drug use, sexual decision making, sexual assault experience, and related wellness topics in a confidential environment. Wellspring professionals can also offer support and answer questions for parents.
Upcoming Events!
Project Impact: My Relationships, My World (Part One)
Trabant MPR C
Did you know as a student leader you can have a profound impact on your peers by providing support, resources, and knowledge? By modeling healthy attitudes, beliefs, and behaviors that promote respect, equality, and a culture of non-violence you are leading by example! Your influence can have a resounding impact on your peers and your relationships with them. This program will help you develop the skills you need to understand dating violence, model respect and equity, as well as provide you with resources helpful to those affected by abusive relationships. Experts in the field will provide an interactive and informative approach to help you identify ways you can make a positive difference – here at UD and beyond. *Note: You do not have to attend Part One to attend Part Two. Sponsored by Wellspring: Student Wellness Program and the Prevention Subcommittee, a joint subcommittee of the Delaware Victims Rights Task Force and the Domestic Violence Task Force of Delaware. This program counts as part of the Blue Hen Leadership Program. Contact Susan Luchey to register your attendance at this program or to register for BHLP.
Film: "Miss Representation"
Trabant Theatre
A documentary by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, premiered at 2011 Sundance Film Festival and aired on Oprah Winfrey Network, looks at the under-representation of women in positions of power and influence. It exposes how American youth are being sold the concept that women and girls’ value lies in their youth, beauty, sexuality, and appearance rather than their intelligence. Following the film will be a speaker who will share her personal struggle with an eating disorder. Sponsored by National Eating Disorders Awareness Council, for National Eating Disorders Awareness Week and the Blue Hen Leadership Program, and co-sponsored by S.O.S. and Wellspring.
Project Impact: My Relationships, My World (Part Two)
Trabant MPR C
What message are you sending with your event flyers, Facebook events, and other marketing materials? Your publicity tells individuals more than the date, time and location of your event. Your flyers can tell a person what your organization/event stands for, values, and promotes. This program will help you understand how marketers sell certain messages through their products and how to deconstruct those messages. You will also develop the skills needed to create publicity that promotes equality, respect, and healthy relationships. *Note: You do not have to attend Part One to attend Part Two. Sponsored by Wellspring: Student Wellness Program and the Prevention Subcommittee, a joint subcommittee of the Delaware Victims Rights Task Force and the Domestic Violence Task Force of Delaware. This program counts as part of the Blue Hen Leadership Program. Contact Susan Luchey to register your attendance at this program or to register for BHLP.
21st Annual Crime Victims' Tribute with Guest Speaker Kathleen Bonistall
Bus leaves from Trabant Univ Ctr at 5:30pm. Event takes place at the Dover Sheraton, 1570 North Dupont highway, Dover, DE 19901
The 21rst Annual Crime Victims’ Tribute is part of Delaware’s recognition of National Crime Victims Rights Week, April 22-28, 2012. The Tribute honors crime victims who have died and those who continue to struggle daily with the aftermath of their own or a loved one’s victimization. There are many displays such as the memorial wall filled with artwork, poems and letters written by victims, survivors and friends, and other displays in which victims are able to openly express their thoughts and feelings. Participants can bring their own letters or art pieces to add to the displays. Victims’ advocates throughout the state display resource materials to assist victims in their healing journey. This year’s speaker is Kathleen Bonistall, mother of UD student Lindsay Bonistall who was raped and murdered in her off-campus apartment in May 2005. The Bonistall family founded PEACE OUTside Campus, the Lindsay Bonistall Foundation to promote peaceful, safe living environments off-campus. Mrs. Bonistall will talk about how the crime has impacted her life and share a message of hope for all victims, survivors, advocates and law enforcement. Part of UD's Sexual Assault Awareness Month. FREE BUS provided by Student Activities & Programs will leave Trabant at 5:30pm but you must REGISTER to RIDE.