Spring 2015 Support Groups
Student Wellness & Health Promotion is offering a Sexual Assault Survivors' Support Group and a Healthy Relationships Support Group. They will not be open to the public. If interested, please call 831-3457 to schedule a 30-minute appointment. Group meetings will be 8-10 weeks, and will hopefully begin in the first week of March. Give yourself the gift of this experience!
If you are victimized...
Survivors of all forms of sexual assault and intimate partner violence can experience a wide range of feelings and reactions, including confusion, denial, anger, shock, numbness, fear, self-blame, embarrassment, sadness, and helplessness. It is common for survivors to have:
- feelings of guilt and responsibility;
- concerns about their ability to make good judgments about people;
- difficulty trusting themselves and others;
- feelings of being violated, conned, cheated, and/or manipulated;
- difficulty accepting what happened as rape or abuse.
It is common for survivors of sexual assault or rape to experience Post Traumatic Stress, formerly called "Rape Trauma Syndrome." Seeking supportive crisis care or after-care counseling can be helpful in coping with these initial, intense feelings.
Survivors of intimate partner violence struggle with who to turn to for help because many of their friends don't understand and just want them to leave the abusive partner. You may find it especially helpful to get information and support from an outside resource.
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse and incest often begin to remember their experience or deal with the emotions associated with their childhood experiences for the first time while in college. This can be a scary and difficult time and can create a great deal of turmoil in the survivors' life, even though the assault(s) happened years before.
No matter what kind of assault you experienced, it is important to know that:
- These feelings and reactions are normal, and quite common.
- IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Sexual Assault is a crime of power and control. Intimate Partner Violence also occurs when one partner tries to control the other. No one can force a perpetrator to commit these crimes. The perpetrator always has other options and choices in the situation. You are not responsible for the perpetrator assaulting you even if you were drinking, on a date with the person, dressed provocatively, or even if you engaged in consentual kissing, foreplay, or sexual acts with the person beforehand. Your consent is required for a mutual, legal sexual interaction; without your consent it is rape. If you are intoxicated, then you are unable to give consent and sex at that point is rape.
- Help is available.
Caring For Yourself / Safety Checklist...Your options in the first 24 hours
If you have been sexually assaulted within the last 72 hours, you have some medical and legal options to consider which are time-limited. There are other medical, legal, and emotional resources that are available to you regardless of when your sexual assault occurred.
Use the black navigation menu buttons at left to learn about more options available to you, or call to speak with an SOS Victim Advocate who can present these options to you, support you, and listen. You are strongly encouraged to read UD Frequently Asked Questions about Sexual Assault.
For UD Students on Study Abroad:
It is recommended that you seek out the UD staff members coordinating your trip for assistance navigating the local resources. The laws and the criminal justice system can be vastly different in other countries from what you may expect in the U.S. You may find it helpful to contact a local victim service agency in that country. The following are some resources to assist you:
U.S. State Department Travel Information Travel advisories, emergency assistance, common concerns for specific destinations around the globe, and many more resources for U.S. travelers.
U.S. State Department Help for Americans Emergency Assistance for American Citizens Abroad
VA Online Listing of Victim Assistance Agencies in countries around the globe where you can seek help if you are sexually assaulted, stalked, harassed.
Office for Victims of Crime Resources for International Victims of Crime.
S.O.S. is still a resource to you if you are a UD student overseas. Call our crisis number at 302-831-2226 for a listening ear or for assistance finding resources where you are in the world. You may seek out our follow-up services when you return to campus.
General Information For Rape/Sexual Assault Survivors:
RAD (Rape Aggression Defense) for Women @ UD
PAVE - Promoting Awareness & Victim Empowerment
The National Center for Victims of Crime -- Violence Against Women (Provides info on Rape/Sexual Assault, Dating/Domestic Violence, Stalking, Cyberstalking, Sexual Harassment, etc. )
To reach the SOS Victim Advocate on duty (24 hrs/day) call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and the advocate will call you back within 10 minutes.
Human Continuum: Where Do You Stand?
Independence West Lounge
You will not sit during this program! It is designed to help you clarify where you stand regarding a variety of sexual situations and whether they rise to the level of sexual harassment, sexual assault, or sexual abuse. Presented for the Sexual Assault Prevention & Education Committee by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.)
SAGE's Annual Take Back the Night & Speak-Out
Stay tuned for details
Women all over the world have been shattering the silence around sexual assault and violence against women at Take Back the Night Marches for over 30 years. Join your fellow students at the University of Delaware to "take back the night," and join us after the march to Speak Out! against campus rape and violence. All are welcome to participate! Sponsored by Students Acting for Gender Equality (SAGE).
Doors open & refreshments at 6:15pm, Film at 7:00pm
Documentary: The Anonymous People with panel discussion
Rodney Room, Perkins Student Center
The Anonymous People is a feature documentary film about the over 23 million Americans living in long-term recovery from addiction to alcohol and other drugs. Panel discussion will follow about addiction and long-term recovery. Wear purple in support of UD going purple for the Purple Project! Free admission, suggested donation of $3 to benefit the Purple Project. Sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community, Elements Behavioral Health, and Student Wellness & Health Promotion.
Former NBA Player Chris Herren
Trabant Multi-Purpose Rooms
Chris Herren struggled with substance abuse for much of his basketball career. Drug-free and alcohol-free since August 1, 2008, he has refocused his life to put his sobriety and family above all else. Founder of the Herren Project and Project Purple, we encourage all attendees to wear purple for the event! Free admission, suggested donation to benefit the Purple Project. Sponsored by the Collegiate Recovery Community, Elements Behavioral Health, and Student Wellness & Health Promotion.
Annual Crime Victims' Tribute & Candlelight Vigil
Delaware State University, MLK Student Center Multi-Purpose Rooms
Speaker: Meredith Gardner Meredith Gardner's mother, Tammy Gardner, was murdered in Wilmington when she tried to escape a domestic violence relationship. Meredith was 12 years old and her brother was 10. Meredith will share how the crime impacted her life, and how meeting with the man who murdered her mother empowered her to pursue a career helping other crime victims. Those affected by crime are invited to bring writings, artwork or other meaningful items to be posted on the Memorial Walls which will be on display at the event. See the flyer. Sponsored by Delaware Victims' Rights Task Force. Calll 1-800-Victim1 for info or if you need accommodations. Free and open to the public.
"Party with Consent" with guest speaker Jonathin Kalin
Bacchus Theater, Perkins Student Center
This highly interactive program considers the reality that no students have their college's consent policy memorized. Participants will discuss consent, coersion, hookups, alcohol, sex, and sexual violence prevention. Sponsored by Interfraternity Council, Delaware MEN, and the SAPE Committee.
Student Wellness Coffeehouse with International Students
Office of International Students & Scholars, 44 Kent Way
Join Student Wellness Student Leaders from S.O.S., Opt4, Pow! & the Recovery Community for a coffeehouse with international students. Coffee and refreshments, and Student Wellness information & giveaways will be provided.