SOS Inaugural "Keep Moving Forward" 5K!
Join S.O.S. on Sun 9/21 for our first ever 5K to benefit S.O.S.' work assisting survivors of sexual assault, intimate partner violence & stalking. There will be t-shirts, refreshments, prizes for Race categories. Register at: Races2Run. Registration begins at Noon, Race at 1pm. Together we can Keep Moving Forward to make our community safer and we can encourage survivors to Keep Moving Forward in their lives!
If you are victimized...
Survivors of all forms of sexual assault and intimate partner violence can experience a wide range of feelings and reactions, including confusion, denial, anger, shock, numbness, fear, self-blame, embarrassment, sadness, and helplessness. It is common for survivors to have:
- feelings of guilt and responsibility;
- concerns about their ability to make good judgments about people;
- difficulty trusting themselves and others;
- feelings of being violated, conned, cheated, and/or manipulated;
- difficulty accepting what happened as rape or abuse.
It is common for survivors of sexual assault or rape to experience Post Traumatic Stress, formerly called "Rape Trauma Syndrome." Seeking supportive crisis care or after-care counseling can be helpful in coping with these initial, intense feelings.
Survivors of intimate partner violence struggle with who to turn to for help because many of their friends don't understand and just want them to leave the abusive partner. You may find it especially helpful to get information and support from an outside resource.
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse and incest often begin to remember their experience or deal with the emotions associated with their childhood experiences for the first time while in college. This can be a scary and difficult time and can create a great deal of turmoil in the survivors' life, even though the assault(s) happened years before.
No matter what kind of assault you experienced, it is important to know that:
- These feelings and reactions are normal, and quite common.
- IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Sexual Assault is a crime of power and control. Intimate Partner Violence also occurs when one partner tries to control the other. No one can force a perpetrator to commit these crimes. The perpetrator always has other options and choices in the situation. You are not responsible for the perpetrator assaulting you even if you were drinking, on a date with the person, dressed provocatively, or even if you engaged in consentual kissing, foreplay, or sexual acts with the person beforehand. Your consent is required for a mutual, legal sexual interaction; without your consent it is rape. If you are intoxicated, then you are unable to give consent and sex at that point is rape.
- Help is available.
Caring For Yourself / Safety Checklist...Your options in the first 24 hours
If you have been sexually assaulted within the last 72 hours, you have some medical and legal options to consider which are time-limited. There are other medical, legal, and emotional resources that are available to you regardless of when your sexual assault occurred.
Use the black navigation menu buttons at left to learn about more options available to you, or call to speak with an SOS Victim Advocate who can present these options to you, support you, and listen. You are strongly encouraged to read UD Frequently Asked Questions about Sexual Assault.
For UD Students on Study Abroad:
It is recommended that you seek out the UD staff members coordinating your trip for assistance navigating the local resources. The laws and the criminal justice system can be vastly different in other countries from what you may expect in the U.S. You may find it helpful to contact a local victim service agency in that country. The following are some resources to assist you:
U.S. State Department Travel Information Travel advisories, emergency assistance, common concerns for specific destinations around the globe, and many more resources for U.S. travelers.
U.S. State Department Help for Americans Emergency Assistance for American Citizens Abroad
VA Online Listing of Victim Assistance Agencies in countries around the globe where you can seek help if you are sexually assaulted, stalked, harassed.
Office for Victims of Crime Resources for International Victims of Crime.
S.O.S. is still a resource to you if you are a UD student overseas. Call our crisis number at 302-831-2226 for a listening ear or for assistance finding resources where you are in the world. You may seek out our follow-up services when you return to campus.
General Information For Rape/Sexual Assault Survivors:
RAD (Rape Aggression Defense) for Women @ UD
PAVE - Promoting Awareness & Victim Empowerment
The National Center for Victims of Crime -- Violence Against Women (Provides info on Rape/Sexual Assault, Dating/Domestic Violence, Stalking, Cyberstalking, Sexual Harassment, etc. )
To reach the SOS Victim Advocate on duty (24 hrs/day) call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and the advocate will call you back within 10 minutes.
Our very own campus Luau! Enjoy music by DJ Amaze, ice cream by the UDairy Creamery, inflatables, prizes, henna, photo booth... FUN!!! Sponsored by Opt4.
Class of 2018 Tailgate!
Lot A, Delaware Stadium
Enjoy a pregame tailgate with your peers filled with music, food, inflatables, games, prizes, and much more exclusively for Class of 2018 students before the Blue Hens Football game vs. Colgate. Come get a group photo in front of your class banner and enter a raffle for a chance to win a variety of prizes including the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to lead UD’s football team out onto the field for the game! All student game tickets are subject to availability on a first-come, first-served basis. Event t-shirts will be available at check-in on a limited basis and priority will be given to those who registered as of Monday, 9/1. REGISTER HERE!
Where do you stand? Human Continuum
Redding Residence Hall Lounge
You will not sit during this program! It is designed to help you clarify where you stand regarding a variety of sexual situations and whether they rise to the level of sexual harassment, sexual assault, or sexual abuse. Presented by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.).
SOS' "Keep Moving Forward" 5K Walk/Run
Join us to walk or run in SOS' First ever 5K benefit event. In addition to raising funds for resources to assist victims, the 5K is also intended to inspire and motivate our community to keep moving forward toward a safer community and to empower survivors to keep moving forward in their lives. REGISTER HERE!
Brown Residence Hall
Talking about sex can be scary. Find out how your peers ask for sex in this fun, interactive exercise. Learn about verbal and non-verbal indicators your partner may use to indicate consent or non-consent, and learn some sexy new ways to ask! Presented by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.).
"Virgins & Sluts" presented by Guest Speaker: Sexologist, Dr. Jill McDevitt
Trabant Multi-Purpose Rms A&B
Via carefully selected video clips and anonymous audience-submitted stories, slut-shaming and virginity pledges will be explored from a feminist perspective, illuminating how America's obsession with the sex lives of women is used as a tool of oppression. From historical uses of the "virgin/whore complex" like the hanging of bloody marital bedsheets in the public square, to modern incidences such as high school purity dances and the Sandra Fluke/birth control/Rush Limbaugh/slut fiasco, this workshop will engage students to explore the role of sexuality as it relates to gender equality and violence. Dr. Jill McDevitt is a nationally recognized speaker, blogger, activist, and sexologist. She has a B.A. in Sexuality, Marriage, and Family, an M.Ed. in Human Sexuality Education, and a Ph.D. in Human Sexuality. For more information about Dr. Jill McDevitt go to www.thesexologist.org
Be the Change - Join us for Altitude's 5K Race. Register at www.races2run.com.
2nd Annual Halloween Extravaganza!
Come out for a night of dancing, games, refreshments, costumes, candy, and PRIZES! Stay tuned for details!
Get Up, Stand Up! Be a Courageous Bystander
Independence West Residence Hall Lounge
Have you ever heard a sexist or homophobic joke and wished you had confronted it? Witnessed someone name-calling or hitting another person? Seen a woman passed out drunk in a room at a house party, then a man goes in and closes the door? Were you left with the nagging feeling that someone should have intervened...yet getting involved felt too risky? According to www.safeandrespectful.org, a "Courageous Bystander" is someone who takes an active role in promoting a respectful environment, or who takes action to safely and responsibly interfere with abusive behaviors, statements, or attitudes. This interactive program helps participants learn ways to be a courageous bystander and possibly save someone from victimization and trauma. Presented by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.).