October is Dating/Domestic Violence Awareness Month
We are accepting donations of cell phones to benefit the Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence and cleaning supplies which Child, Inc. will provide to domestic violence survivors when they leave protective shelters in Delaware. Both of these non-profit agencies actively work to end dating & domestic violence and to assist survivors. Drop off your donations to Student Wellness & Health Promotion, 231 S. College Avenue through October.
If you are victimized...
Survivors of all forms of sexual assault and intimate partner violence can experience a wide range of feelings and reactions, including confusion, denial, anger, shock, numbness, fear, self-blame, embarrassment, sadness, and helplessness. It is common for survivors to have:
- feelings of guilt and responsibility;
- concerns about their ability to make good judgments about people;
- difficulty trusting themselves and others;
- feelings of being violated, conned, cheated, and/or manipulated;
- difficulty accepting what happened as rape or abuse.
It is common for survivors of sexual assault or rape to experience Post Traumatic Stress, formerly called "Rape Trauma Syndrome." Seeking supportive crisis care or after-care counseling can be helpful in coping with these initial, intense feelings.
Survivors of intimate partner violence struggle with who to turn to for help because many of their friends don't understand and just want them to leave the abusive partner. You may find it especially helpful to get information and support from an outside resource.
Survivors of childhood sexual abuse and incest often begin to remember their experience or deal with the emotions associated with their childhood experiences for the first time while in college. This can be a scary and difficult time and can create a great deal of turmoil in the survivors' life, even though the assault(s) happened years before.
No matter what kind of assault you experienced, it is important to know that:
- These feelings and reactions are normal, and quite common.
- IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT! Sexual Assault is a crime of power and control. Intimate Partner Violence also occurs when one partner tries to control the other. No one can force a perpetrator to commit these crimes. The perpetrator always has other options and choices in the situation. You are not responsible for the perpetrator assaulting you even if you were drinking, on a date with the person, dressed provocatively, or even if you engaged in consentual kissing, foreplay, or sexual acts with the person beforehand. Your consent is required for a mutual, legal sexual interaction; without your consent it is rape. If you are intoxicated, then you are unable to give consent and sex at that point is rape.
- Help is available.
Caring For Yourself / Safety Checklist...Your options in the first 24 hours
If you have been sexually assaulted within the last 72 hours, you have some medical and legal options to consider which are time-limited. There are other medical, legal, and emotional resources that are available to you regardless of when your sexual assault occurred.
Use the black navigation menu buttons at left to learn about more options available to you, or call to speak with an SOS Victim Advocate who can present these options to you, support you, and listen. You are strongly encouraged to read UD Frequently Asked Questions about Sexual Assault.
For UD Students on Study Abroad:
It is recommended that you seek out the UD staff members coordinating your trip for assistance navigating the local resources. The laws and the criminal justice system can be vastly different in other countries from what you may expect in the U.S. You may find it helpful to contact a local victim service agency in that country. The following are some resources to assist you:
U.S. State Department Travel Information Travel advisories, emergency assistance, common concerns for specific destinations around the globe, and many more resources for U.S. travelers.
U.S. State Department Help for Americans Emergency Assistance for American Citizens Abroad
VA Online Listing of Victim Assistance Agencies in countries around the globe where you can seek help if you are sexually assaulted, stalked, harassed.
Office for Victims of Crime Resources for International Victims of Crime.
S.O.S. is still a resource to you if you are a UD student overseas. Call our crisis number at 302-831-2226 for a listening ear or for assistance finding resources where you are in the world. You may seek out our follow-up services when you return to campus.
General Information For Rape/Sexual Assault Survivors:
RAD (Rape Aggression Defense) for Women @ UD
PAVE - Promoting Awareness & Victim Empowerment
The National Center for Victims of Crime -- Violence Against Women (Provides info on Rape/Sexual Assault, Dating/Domestic Violence, Stalking, Cyberstalking, Sexual Harassment, etc. )
To reach the SOS Victim Advocate on duty (24 hrs/day) call 302-831-2226. The person who answers will take a first name and phone number and the advocate will call you back within 10 minutes.
Drives to benefit Domestic Violence survivors
Student Wellness & Health Promotion, 231 S. College Ave.
Donate your used cell phones to benefit the Delaware Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Donate cleaning supplies being collected by Child, Inc. for domestic violence survivors when they leave protective shelters in Delaware. Both of these non-profit agencies actively work to end dating & domestic violence and to assist survivors. The drive has been organized by our Dating Violence Counselor. Call 831-3457 to schedule an appointment.
October 20, 21, 22nd: 12:30-2:00pm
Phi Sigma Sigma will be collecting toiletries, non-perishable food items, especially: canned tuna, canned soup, coffee, coffee creamer, rice, instant mashed potatoes, mac n cheese, cooking oil, powdered juice mixes, hot cocoa mix, sugar, instant oatmeal, household items, especially: laundry detergent, toilet paper, trash bags, Ziploc freezer bags, cleaning supplies, paper towels, and clothing such as slippers for women and children, bath robes, pajamas.
Allison Schmidt Domestic Violence Memorial Walk
Newark Reservoir, Old Paper Mill Road
Join Phi Sigma Sigma for this Memorial Walk to honor survivors of Dating & Domestic Violence, as well as those who have lost their lives at the hands of an abusive partner. Your $5 purchase of the Memorial Walk shirt serves as your entrance fee to the walk. Open to the public.
2nd Annual Halloween Extravaganza!
Come out for a night of dancing, games, refreshments, costumes, candy, and PRIZES! Stay tuned for details!
Get Up, Stand Up! Be a Courageous Bystander
Independence West Residence Hall Lounge
Have you ever heard a sexist or homophobic joke and wished you had confronted it? Witnessed someone name-calling or hitting another person? Seen a woman passed out drunk in a room at a house party, then a man goes in and closes the door? Were you left with the nagging feeling that someone should have intervened...yet getting involved felt too risky? A "Courageous Bystander" is someone who takes an active role in promoting a respectful environment, or who takes action to safely and responsibly interfere with abusive behaviors, statements, or attitudes. This interactive program helps participants learn ways to be a courageous bystander and possibly save someone from victimization and trauma. Presented by Sexual Offense Support (S.O.S.).
European Standards for Sex Education from the World Health Organization
Speaker: Olaf Kapella, Austrian Institute for Family Studies, University of Vienna
STAR Campus, 540 S. College Ave.
Over the past few decades, there have been many developments that highlight the need for sexuality education including: the proliferation of social media, the global spread of HIV/AIDS, increasing concerns about the sexual abuse of children and adolescents, and changing attitudes toward sexuality & sexual behavior of youth, and the globalization and migration of people with different cultural & religious backgrounds. In the face of it, Europe is not leaving young people alone to deal with misinformation, stereotypes and myths about sex. Learn about the World Health Organization's standards for sex education in Europe. Sponsored by the Delaware Division of Public Health and many UD offices and departments. See the flyer.